Dating advice for men over 40
In my experience, younger men really don’t care much about age differences.
And since you are now a wise, mature adult (or better at acting the part), you know it’s not a big deal to cut a guy loose by telling him that you’re not feeling a click. On the other hand, you might feel a huge click with a guy who doesn’t share any of your interests But since you’re more mature and wise, you get that shared values and personality characteristics are more important than shared interests. Beware the newly-divorced You will hear a lot of people talk about snagging good catches when they’re leaving their first marriages. But remember that newly-divorced men come with a lot of baggage. They might not know how to take care of themselves, and they might have complicated custody issues that keep them from travelling. Single, independent, accomplished 40-year-olds know there’s nothing to fear in being alone. Even your feminist friends will treat your single state as a project they need to fix …and they will spend much creative energy trying to find you a match.
Depending on who it’s coming from, this can be flattering or very insulting (especially the friends who urge you to compromise).
Maybe you would prefer to hang out at cafes, museums, film festivals and art galleries.
And maybe that’s where the cool 40-something men are hanging out, too. A lot of single 40-something females look and feel fantastic They do Pilates and yoga, they’re energetic, they take care of their skin and are into healthy eating.
Elizabeth Gilbert, the author of , that she loved her nieces and nephews but did not want children of her own.