Dating someone who is not a christian
A few days have gone by since the excitement and my heart is torn, I feel guilty for even dating a man who doesn’t follow Jesus.The idea of my Christian friends ridiculing me for potentially marrying a no Christian and even worse the idea of disappointing God himself is bumming me out. It’s wrong to start pounding on someone just because you disapprove of something that they’ve said or done.“Verily I say unto you: do not vex me, lest I begin soundly thrashing you about your head and ears, you vapid dinkwad” is be, anyway)? If you know someone who is in a committed relationship of which you do not approve, an excellent question to ask yourself—especially before venturing to offer any opinion on that relationship—is whether or not anyone but you gives a rolled-up church bulletin what you think of that relationship.
Throughout our relationship he’s really encouraged me in my faith … But I do not know how to handle the simplistic thinking from many members of the church who think that my relationship is wrong—that I should either end it, or be living in sin. I’ve been dating this man for two years now and he prepared me that he’ll be making a proposal soon.
But when we announced our engagement I received a few emails from the pastor saying the Bible is clear that the relationship is wrong and that I need to end it. I knew that, out of love, I would receive some hostility from Christian friends, but it is getting to the point where I do not want to go back to church, because of the volume of people telling me to end the relationship—when they cannot give me a reason for doing so, other than him being a non-Christian. I was overwhelmed with joy, laughter, and excitement.
In fact, I get why so many young women have been deceived into thinking that it is a potentially wonderful missions opportunity.
(I actually fell for this one myself as a high school and college-aged woman.) But since I now understand how important it is that we understand God’s truth on this subject, I decided to recruit a friend of mine to be a voice of reason. He just happens to be a handsome, funny college student who is currently serving as the youth ministry intern at my church. How do we convince them that they should only date Christians?
We started talking on the band trip that year on New Year’s Eve.