Red flags on dating

by  |  10-Mar-2016 21:14

Obviously, no one is perfect and relationships can be tough to navigate.But there's a difference between a person with good intentions who works hard to make their girlfriend happy, and a person who isn't respectful enough or mature enough to make the relationship work.

It's human nature to notice when other people are cute, but he shouldn't make you feel bad or insecure every time you go out. If he rarely writes back on time and sometimes not at all, consider why you text him back right away. Schedule a date night ASAP and invite him to tag along during the next group outing. If he cancels one date to study for a big test, that's understandable.

If he repeatedly has trouble trusting you to be on your own, that's a huge red flag that he could be unnecessarily controlling or even abusive now or at some point in the future. That doesn't give him license to blame everything that goes wrong in your relationship on you. You shouldn't have to go through life cringing every time you say or do anything, worrying that your S. If he constantly flakes out because he wants to play video games at home, or something better came up, that means you're dealing with a dude who doesn't respect you or your time.

Perhaps you recently met someone who caught your interest, and you're hoping that with time you'll be able to discern if the relationship should move toward marriage. Even books on the subject of dating and marriage can convey a subtle expectation to keep moving forward: "Trust God," "differences are good," and "hey, nobody's perfect." All of that's true.

You've identified the other person's strengths, but have also discovered some traits that leave you scratching your head. Well-meaning friends and relatives might be inquiring about your love life, wondering when you plan on taking "the plunge." Your own sense of loneliness and that God-given desire for connection can nudge you further in a relationship until the steps toward the altar just seem to get easier and easier. But with so many of them urging you toward marriage, it's wise to pause and ask yourself some questions that might prevent heartache down the road.

Look, no one's perfect and relationships can be tough to navigate sometimes. When he screws up or hurts your feelings, he has a responsibility to own up and say he's sorry. Save your time for someone who will make time to hang out, because he can't wait to spend time with you.

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