We had moved in together almost a year earlier, and couples therapy seemed easier than breaking up.
It would at least buy us time to figure out how to split our belongings while I looked for my own place in New York City.
Couples therapy is designed to help partners overcome many relationship obstacles such as communication issues, infidelity, power struggles, or intimacy problems.
But, I reasoned, the world is far too consumed with materialism and I didn't want to be sucked into it. Schaffer said her schedule was full, but she would have an opening in a month. Did couples leave happy and cured, with a better understanding of each other? The waiting room was beige — beige walls, beige carpet.
Or did they exit just as disgruntled as when they walked in? If there were pictures on the walls, I didn't register them.
I went into counseling thinking Ryan had to change. An aspiring actor, Ryan had no job security, no savings account or 401(k), and a penchant for buying every new electronic gadget on the market.
If he didn't fix at least eight of the things that were wrong with him, I was out. He lives and breathes sports, while I swore I'd never date a jock.
A year later, we're still in therapy, but no longer in crisis mode.